The Best Buy for Your Booty

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Welcome to Anal August, that special time of he year when we celebrate the booty and all its potential for pleasure. Anal play is more popular than you might think — take it from us! Butt plugs are consistently one of our bestselling product families, and we have customers of all genders, anatomies, ages, shapes, sizes, abilities, and relationship structures who are interested in exploring the wide world of butt stuff. After all, every body has a booty!

Of course, no one needs to participate in anal. Some have had poor past experience, and others simply aren’t interested — and that’s ok! But if you’re only hesitating to explore butt stuff because of social stigmas or nerves, we want to give you the tools you need to make sure that nothing holds you back from appreciating all the pleasure your booty can bring.

So where should you start? While every body is different, and no two people want the exact same things from a toy, there are some lessons to be learned from the good experiences of others. The following toys are our bestselling butt plugs of all time. These reviews were written anonymously from our staff, customers, and friends of the store. So if you’ve been wondering about the right plug for you, we compiled this list to compare the best features of the most popular picks.

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What Can Monogamous People Learn from the Polyam Community?

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These days, polyamory is gaining in popularity. With so many people going poly, it can feel like everyone is leaving monogamy behind. But the truth is that polyamory isn’t for everyone. Some people will feel more fulfilled, connected, and secure in monogamous romantic and sexual relationships than they do with multiple partners. And that’s ok!

It’s important to remember that non-monogamy is not more inherently ethical than monogamy. Any kind of interpersonal relationship requires open and honest communication, and sexually or romantically monogamous relationships can be every bit as radical, affirming, freeing, and intentionally cultivated as non-monogamy. But like all people with opposing views, there are some things to be learned from polyamory, even if you’re more into monogamy.

So what can monogamous people learn from the poly community?

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Toys For Trans Folks: A Spectrum of Experiences

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It’s the time of year that we bask in the glow of queer and trans joy, show up even more powerfully for our LGBTQIA+ community, and continue to practice a radical acceptance and love for each other. Whether you are trans, gender nonconforming, nonbinary, or somewhere on the genderqueer spectrum — or you love someone who is — now is a great time to show up for that community through love and acceptance. At As You Like It, we believe that this radical love and acceptance can come in the form of the pleasure we get from using sex toys. But what do sex toys have to do with gender?

Much of the sex toy and adult pleasure industry would have us believe that toys are geared toward either men or women based on which their assumed genitalia. But this assumption leaves a huge gap in the sex toy market for those of us who do not fit neatly into the categories of cisgender man and woman.

Despite what some might believe, sex toys can help affirm and even realign our pleasures based not just on what our bodies physically look like, but also based on the fluidity and creativity that we want to encompass with our bodies.

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Working Hard or Hardly Working? Demystifying Erectile Dysfunction

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As a community sexual health resource, one of the most common concerns brought to us by our customers is difficulty getting or maintaining erections. This topic can be challenging to discuss, and often contains within it a large spectrum of both physical and mental concerns. It is important to note that we here at As You Like It are not medical professionals, but we do have a plethora of educational information, product knowledge, and resources to share when it comes to penile function.

Especially with all of the over-the-counter supplements promising quick fixes, or books promising a cure-all, it can be hard to know where to begin with tackling erectile functionality. Luckily, we are here to demystify erectile dysfunction, including these often confusing and misleading products, and to discuss what other, more realistic options are out there. Because everyone deserves to experience pleasure, and there are many wonderful ways to do so that are safe for you and your body!

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Sex for Survivors

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For those who don’t know, April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. And the unfortunate reality is that while this may be a challenging and even painful topic to discuss, far too many people are navigating sex and relationships in this world as sexual assault survivors.

A 2018 study conducted in the wake of the #MeToo movement found that more than 1 in 4 women and 1 in 14 men are survivors of sexual assault, while 81% of women and 43% of men reported experiencing some form of sexual harassment in their lifetime. What this means is that it’s surprisingly likely that even if you personally never experience assault or harassment, there will be someone that you want to date or sleep with over the course of your lifetime who has. Understandably, survivors don’t always tell every person they go on a date with about their past trauma. So if you’re courting someone, dating someone, or sleeping with someone, it’s important to understand that whether you know it or not, you may be engaging in a relationship with a survivor.

So how can we support survivors in all of our romantic and sexual relationships, no matter how casual or committed they might be?

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Expanding Your Sexual Imagination

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Have you ever looked at a toy in our store or on our social media and found yourself asking “what does that thing even do?” You’re not alone! This is actually one of the most common questions we hear from our customers!

The confusion is totally understandable, of course. The wonderful world of sex toys has become much wider in recent years. Where there used to be a few pretty reliable shapes you could find toys in — wand, bullet, rabbit, plug — these days, there are toys of all kinds of unique shapes and functions, some of which you may never have seen anything like before, even if you’re a relative toy aficionado!

The key is learning to look at all toys with both curiosity and creativity. Although it can definitely be helpful to learn the intended use behind the design of a specific toy, the best way to get the most out of toys is to experiment! Perhaps something that was designed for the clitoris also feels heavenly on your nipples, or maybe a vibe that was created with the prostate in mind just so happens to hit your g-spot at just the right angle. Toys offer nearly limitless avenues to all kinds of unique and unexpected pleasures. But if you never try, you’ll never know — so we recommend you get exploring as soon as possible!

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Redefining Romance

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Well, here we are. It’s February, the month of Love & Romance! And soaring in the skies above us, ready to swoop down like a fabulous, white-feathered winged griffin to bestow blessings and celebrations of holy eros and requited romantic love upon us is: Valentine’s Day!

But if we see romantic love as standing atop the pillar above the clouds, worthy of sundering us from all else, we tend to see other relationships as coming secondarily to the romantic duo. In fact, we are often told that nourishing other relationships comes at the expense of our romantic relationship. And we are certainly told that romance has no place other than within our romantic dyad.

And thus the potential woe of February 14th. If our celebration of love only exalts the holy romantic duo, what happens to those not in romantic relationship? What happens to those who intentionally choose a single or solo life? Or those with more than one romantic relationship in their lives? What happens to those in couple-hood who don’t feel the magic of the union? What about those in the romantic union who mourn and miss their lost ties of connection with friends and community?

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The P-Spot: Combining Health and Pleasure

The Health Benefits of Prostate Play

Short for Prostate, the P-spot is a small gland in the bodies of most penis-owners. For those that are interested in exploring, it can be found about two inches inside the rectum on the forward wall of the body.

Many have discovered in that when stimulated correctly, the prostate can also be a source of serious pleasure. Some have even achieved the elusive prostate orgasm! Because of the incredible potential of the p-spot, we carry lots of amazing toys designed specifically to stimulate the prostate, and it’s one of the most popular sections of our online store. So it’s safe to say that there are plenty of people out there discovering the pleasure of the p-spot.

And there’s even more good news for all the p-spot players out there! It turns out that there can be a lot of health benefits of prostate play as well!

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No Tricks, Just Treats

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The weather is cooling down, the leaves are beginning to change color, and fall has arrived at last. And since it’s the season of shadow and spookiness, what better time to delve into one of the most misunderstood aspects of sexuality, the wonderful world of kink?

For those who don’t know, kink is defined as an intimate experience involving a consensual exchange of power or mutual exploration. A kink experience can be physical, sensual, sexual, psychological, spiritual, or any combination thereof! Kink is a broadly understood term that can refer to a wide range of activities, fantasies, and communities. You may have heard the term kink used alongside words like fetish, or used interchangeably with the acronym BDSM.

Thanks in part to the popularity of the Fifty Shades series, there are many widespread myths surrounding the world of kink. We’re here to pull back the curtain and demystify kink (as best we can in a single blog post) from the tyranny of misinformation.

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Talking Out Loud About Sexual Health

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September is Sexual Health Awareness Month — and unsurprisingly, it’s one of our favorite months to celebrate! At As You Like It, we believe that sexual health is just as important as any other aspect of our health. And yet, sexual health is discussed surprisingly infrequently.

Although exceptions absolutely exist, the reality of sex education seems to be woefully limited. It’s not difficult to see how the lack of inclusive and accessible sex education for youth can lead to a generation adults with a lot of questions regarding their sexual health. Worst of all, because of the lack of open conversation, many of these adults may be unsure of where to turn for answers.

That’s where we come in. In honor of Sexual Health Awareness Month, we at As You Like It want to give all the adults with lingering questions a do-over at their sex education. What would it look like if our sexual health education was inclusive, accurate, shame-free, and deeply invested in giving everyone access to the information and resources they need to make safer choices?

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