The weather is cooling down, the leaves are beginning to change color, and fall has arrived at last. And since it’s the season of shadow and spookiness, what better time to delve into one of the most misunderstood aspects of sexuality, the wonderful world of kink?
For those who don’t know, kink is defined as an intimate experience involving a consensual exchange of power or mutual exploration. A kink experience can be physical, sensual, sexual, psychological, spiritual, or any combination thereof! Kink is a broadly understood term that can refer to a wide range of activities, fantasies, and communities. You may have heard the term kink used alongside words like fetish, or used interchangeably with the acronym BDSM.
Thanks in part to the popularity of the Fifty Shades series, there are many widespread myths surrounding the world of kink. We’re here to pull back the curtain and demystify kink (as best we can in a single blog post) from the tyranny of misinformation.Read More
September is Sexual Health Awareness Month — and unsurprisingly, it’s one of our favorite months to celebrate! At As You Like It, we believe that sexual health is just as important as any other aspect of our health. And yet, sexual health is discussed surprisingly infrequently.
Although exceptions absolutely exist, the reality of sex education seems to be woefully limited. It’s not difficult to see how the lack of inclusive and accessible sex education for youth can lead to a generation adults with a lot of questions regarding their sexual health. Worst of all, because of the lack of open conversation, many of these adults may be unsure of where to turn for answers.
That’s where we come in. In honor of Sexual Health Awareness Month, we at As You Like It want to give all the adults with lingering questions a do-over at their sex education. What would it look like if our sexual health education was inclusive, accurate, shame-free, and deeply invested in giving everyone access to the information and resources they need to make safer choices?Read More
Customers frequently come to us looking for the elusive, perfect “couples’ toy.” The intriguing thing about this request is that the definition of couple, the bodies involved, and the desired feelings and sensations vary greatly from person to person, and even more greatly from relationship to relationship. All individuals and couples have entirely unique bodies and desires. Therefore, the category of the couple’s toy remains wide and vague.
The mainstream conceptions of what constitutes sex are still relatively narrow. But we want to remind you that sex is defined only by the people having it, and that sensations like penetration are not mandatory. Many people in relationships have anatomy that does not allow them to experience penis-in-vagina sex with their partner/s, whereas others may have physical restrictions that prevent it. Still, more people may simply not want to participate in penetration for their own personal reasons.
We are all unique people with unique bodies, desires, and relationships. Sex can be anything that you and your partner/s want it to be. And shopping for a toy together can be a great way to expand your idea of what sex can look like for you and your partner/s.Read More
It’s getting hot out there! Like really, really hot. And as vaccination rates continue to creep up in our state as well as nationally, we know that many of you are eager for a hot, sexy summer.
And the weather seems to agree. This summer has already set records here in the Pacific Northwest for extreme heat, and the temperature shows no signs of dropping. With forecasts sticking in the 80s or above for the foreseeable future, this warm weather is something we will all have to learn to work with for the time being.
The good news is that there are plenty of ways to play with temperature, and bring both sizzling, scorching heat AND icy, tingling cold into your summer play. You can use these tips from our expert staff on how to toy with temperature any time of the year, but especially as the outside temperature continues to fluctuate.Read More
June is International Men’s Health Month, a month for bringing awareness and education about issues that affect men’s overall health. Our culture often keeps our eroticism and sexuality compartmentalized in small categories, disconnected from other parts of our physical, emotional, mental, and reproductive health. We are usually able to talk about the prostate and the importance of having it checked by a physician. We are often less skilled in talking about the importance of erotic pleasure in a healthy life.
I want to invite that level of awareness and attention to men’s erotic health or erotic intelligence, to bring understanding that our sexual lives are interwoven with our whole lives, and that our erotic health is part of our general health. For men, this often means having permission to access the full range of erotic possibilities available to them.Read More
Even putting the health benefits aside, masturbation can be just plain fun! And the more you practice, the better you become. But when we get to know ourselves particularly well, we can get into set routines. Once we know what works for us, we might find that we stop exploring new pleasures and instead return to “old faithful,” whatever that may look like for us.
The good news? We here at As You Like It have lots of experience in the wide world of masturbation, and we know that there are infinite ways to touch yourself. So if you’re feeling bored with your usual self-pleasure routine, we have some tips and tricks to shake up your sessions.Read More
It is estimated that around 75% of people with vaginas will experience sexual pain at some point in their lives. But for as prevalent as pain during sex is, there is surprisingly few conversations being had about it. Perhaps that’s why sexual pain can feel so isolating.
If you’re experiencing painful sex, we want you to know that you’re not alone. And you deserve to experience pleasure without pain!Read More
While our cultural training may disagree, my experience with clients in their 50’s, 60’s, 70’s and yes, even 80’s, and with workshop participants (having attended over 40 workshops on Love, Intimacy and Sexuality), and with people who attend my public talks and classes, a lot of people over 50 are having passionate, connective and rich sex lives.
I can assure you that having a fulfilling sex life after 50 is entirely possible—if that is something you want.Read More
What comes to mind when you think about anal sex? For many people, the idea of anal play conjures some unpleasant reactions. Some have had negative experiences with previous attempts, and some have negative connotations about what butt stuff is like, or the kinds of people who might want it. But the truth is that anal is an option for everybody who wants to participate in it — every body’s got a booty, after all!Read More
As we learn to live in the era of coronavirus, learning how to communicate about potential spread and contamination risk is vital. Recently, I have been struck with how similar these discussions can be with health discussions around sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Questions like, “When was the last time you were tested?”Read More