No Tricks, Just Treats

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The weather is cooling down, the leaves are beginning to change color, and fall has arrived at last. And since it’s the season of shadow and spookiness, what better time to delve into one of the most misunderstood aspects of sexuality, the wonderful world of kink?

For those who don’t know, kink is defined as an intimate experience involving a consensual exchange of power or mutual exploration. A kink experience can be physical, sensual, sexual, psychological, spiritual, or any combination thereof! Kink is a broadly understood term that can refer to a wide range of activities, fantasies, and communities. You may have heard the term kink used alongside words like fetish, or used interchangeably with the acronym BDSM.

Thanks in part to the popularity of the Fifty Shades series, there are many widespread myths surrounding the world of kink. We’re here to pull back the curtain and demystify kink (as best we can in a single blog post) from the tyranny of misinformation.

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Talking Out Loud About Sexual Health

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September is Sexual Health Awareness Month — and unsurprisingly, it’s one of our favorite months to celebrate! At As You Like It, we believe that sexual health is just as important as any other aspect of our health. And yet, sexual health is discussed surprisingly infrequently.

Although exceptions absolutely exist, the reality of sex education seems to be woefully limited. It’s not difficult to see how the lack of inclusive and accessible sex education for youth can lead to a generation adults with a lot of questions regarding their sexual health. Worst of all, because of the lack of open conversation, many of these adults may be unsure of where to turn for answers.

That’s where we come in. In honor of Sexual Health Awareness Month, we at As You Like It want to give all the adults with lingering questions a do-over at their sex education. What would it look like if our sexual health education was inclusive, accurate, shame-free, and deeply invested in giving everyone access to the information and resources they need to make safer choices?

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Getting Hot or Cooling Down?

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It’s getting hot out there! Like really, really hot. And as vaccination rates continue to creep up in our state as well as nationally, we know that many of you are eager for a hot, sexy summer.

And the weather seems to agree. This summer has already set records here in the Pacific Northwest for extreme heat, and the temperature shows no signs of dropping. With forecasts sticking in the 80s or above for the foreseeable future, this warm weather is something we will all have to learn to work with for the time being.

The good news is that there are plenty of ways to play with temperature, and bring both sizzling, scorching heat AND icy, tingling cold into your summer play. You can use these tips from our expert staff on how to toy with temperature any time of the year, but especially as the outside temperature continues to fluctuate.

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Masturbation 101: More Than Just Pleasure

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Even putting the health benefits aside, masturbation can be just plain fun! And the more you practice, the better you become. But when we get to know ourselves particularly well, we can get into set routines. Once we know what works for us, we might find that we stop exploring new pleasures and instead return to “old faithful,” whatever that may look like for us.

The good news? We here at As You Like It have lots of experience in the wide world of masturbation, and we know that there are infinite ways to touch yourself. So if you’re feeling bored with your usual self-pleasure routine, we have some tips and tricks to shake up your sessions.

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What Place Does Pleasure Have in an Emergency?

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If you live anywhere on the west coast, chances are you are or were close to a fire or socked in with smoke. To our nervous system, this is an emergency. Being afraid or uneasy is an appropriate response to these conditions. We are evolutionarily hardwired to engage with (fight), run away from (flee), or disassociate from (freeze) threats, and fires and smoke are most definitely threats to our survival.

However, at this very moment most likely you are somewhat OK, otherwise you probably wouldn’t be reading this. While you might know that intellectually, your body could still be on high alert. How do you tell your body that despite these dangerous conditions, you are OK?

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Your Guide to Anal Adventures

Anal August: Every Body's Got a Booty

What comes to mind when you think about anal sex? For many people, the idea of anal play conjures some unpleasant reactions. Some have had negative experiences with previous attempts, and some have negative connotations about what butt stuff is like, or the kinds of people who might want it. But the truth is that anal is an option for everybody who wants to participate in it — every body’s got a booty, after all!

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Tips For Setting the Mood

Tips For Setting the Mood: In my youth, my former partner and I made a habit of playing loud music almost every time we decided to have sex. This is because each of had lots of roommates and thin walls. It probably clued them off what we were doing because our classic choice was the…

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How to Wear a Cock Ring

Cock rings are awesome toys for those who want to experience harder erections.  They restrict blood flow creating a sense of pressure or tightness that people seem to like.  They also look really sexy. But they can do damage if they aren’t used properly, so here at As You Like It, we’ve put together a…

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How to Care For Your Sex Toys

Your sex toys will last longer and be safer if you learn to care for them properly. But there are so many kinds of toys, and no two are alike. How do you know how to clean each toy? The sheer amount of information out there can be overwhelming. But don’t worry, we’re here to…

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Picking a Butt Plug – Questions to Help You Choose Well

So you want to buy a butt plug – fun! As with most sex toy shopping, you’ll find you have a bevy of options to choose from. We have put together a couple of quick questions to help you identify some choices that may be right for you. Remember, if you have any questions, you…

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