Welcome to The End of 2020!
Let's be honest: it's been a really long, hard year. And frankly, we could all use a little extra pleasure right now. So if you're looking for a great gift for a friend, a partner, or even yourself, here are our best suggestions. Each item on this gift guide is a hand-picked favorite of one of our wonderful staff.
You can browse according to your budget, or if you want to spoil someone really special to you, consider investing in one of our spotlighted items, one of our top items of the year.
Remember that you get free shipping on all orders over $50 when you enter the code justbecause at checkout. Or, people who live locally can select 'Local Pickup' at checkout for free curbside pickup of your gift.
Great Gifts Under $15
Our body butters add flavor to delectable intimate moments, spicing it up organically!
Offered in five delicious flavors! Choose from Chocolate, Chocolate-Orange, Orange Creamsicle, Peppermint Pattie and Vanilla! The all natural, all organic aromas and flavors combine to heighten and ripen the senses.
Travel sized and naturally sweetened, As You Like It Body Butters are the perfect dessert for your sensual evening. Savor the sweetness!
A delightful coloring book full of 30+ original, diverse mermaids. Drawn by Ashland Author Micah BlackLight.
A wonderful de-stressing tool for accessing your creativity while simultaneously celebrating the diverse range of body types, weights, hairstyles, ages and ethnicities on display herein. An excellent gift for the mermaid aficionado as well as the person who’s always wanted to see alternative examples of mermaids.$15.00 Add to cart
If you want to spice up your love life, now you can in a fun and easy way with Creative Kisses.
Simply select a card from this creative and romantic game for a new creative way to give your lover a kiss. There will never be another dull moment in your love life with these fun kissing ideas in your arsenal of love.$7.00 Add to cart
The perfect statement piece to tell the world that You’re A Fucking Unicorn!
Beautiful colors, big bold letters, and a glitter finish make this pin truly one of a kind.
This soft enamel pin comes with two attachment posts for optimal fastening security. That way, you’ll never lose this pin from your jacket, bag, or backpack!$12.00 Add to cart
Onda by Lora diCarlo
" If you're looking for the ultimate g-spot vibe, Onda is the one to beat! The incredible finger-stroke sensation created by the kinetic micro-robotics is
totally unique, delivering intense, focused pressure
exactly where you need it most. The stoke is totally customizable in length and speed, so you can explore and find your body's ideal touch. Best of all, the shape and size is perfect - not too big, but not too small. Not too curved, but not too straight. And the firmness allows you to explore all kinds of new angles. This is the ideal toy to lead your g-spot or squirting exploration!"
- Jackie, AYLI Team Member
Great Gifts Under $30
Soy Massage Candles are a fantastic way to give and receive a warm body massage.
Soy wax burns at a lower temperature then beeswax and can be poured directly on the skin if a sensual massage is desired.
The soothing ingredients will leave cracked, dry skin feeling softer then ever.
These candle works wonders on overworked hands and feet.$19.00 Select options
This incredibly versatile soft padded positioning strap by Sportsheets has two handles to grip and pull, helping with balance and improving angle.
When in doggy-style, this strap upgrades the angle of penetration from 90 to 45 degrees. The seemingly simple design targets several aspects of your and your lover’s needs. Bring greater ease, intensity, and satisfaction to the tried-and-true classic position.
Ideal for couples dealing with injuries or fatigue in the hips, back, or knees, this quick fix can transform your sex life and restore tension and connection.$25.00 Add to cart
UVee Ultraviolet Sanitizer
" This is the year I think we all became really aware of our personal hygiene practices. I first brought the UVee home to sanitize all my sex toys, but in 2020, I ended up using it every single day! It's the most convenient way to
quickly and easily sanitize everything I handle a lot,
especially when I leave the house. I especially love that it's a big enough size for all my stuff - my phone, my keys, my wallet, my credit cards, everything! It's super fast, only requiring ten minutes to kill 99% of germs. Eve though I originally got it fr toys, it gives me such peace of mind to know that all of my most frequently-touched items are all actually clean. "
- Emerson, AYLI Team Member
Great Gifts Under $50
Let your imagination run wild with this versatile hogtie kit!
Four durable yet comfortable Sportsheets cuffs allow for a myriad of positions only limited by your dirty mind. Perfect for beginners or experienced bondage enthusiasts, this leather-free set includes the hogtie center connector and 4 detachable cuffs.
Made with heavy-duty hardware, each hook clasps easily onto the D-rings of the hogtie. Alternately, the adjustable velcro cuffs can be used on their own as handcuffs and ankle cuffs.
The 5 Piece Hog Tie & Cuff Set can be used in the front or behind the back depending on what you have in mind for the evening. Sturdy yet quick to remove, this product creates quick and easy ways to restrain your partner.$40.00 Add to cart
For the first time, the entire spectrum of four-plus decades of queer cartooning is collected under one cover.
Featuring groundbreaking crossover successes like Alison Bechdel, Howard Cruse, Eleen Forney, Dan Savage and David WOnjnarowicz. Additionally, international superstars like Ralf König and Nazario and dozens of other cartoonists who have rarely been read outside the greater queer community. Editor Justin Hall has assembled an invaluable piece of comics history and LGBTQ culture.
These comics have forged their aesthetics from the influences of underground comix, gay erotic art, punk zines, and the biting commentaries of drag queens, bull dykes, and other marginalized queers. They have analyzed their own communities, and their relationship with the broader society. They are smart, funny, and profound. No Straight Lines will be heralded by people interested in comics history, and people invested in LGBT culture will embrace it as a unique and invaluable collection.$35.00 Add to cart
Pulse Duo Vibrating Sleeve
" I think this is definitely the coolest stroker I've come across. It's a totally singular experience! The unique tapping feeling of the small oscillating plate mixed with the overall vibration of the sleeve feels so nice. It's a
really deep, thuddy sensation that's like no other!
What's really cool about Pulse is that it's specifically designed to stimulate more blood flow and increase sensitivity to the penis, but doesn't actually require an erection to be used! And the sensations feel just as good regardless of how erect the person using it is. Adding Pulse to oral creates an amazing experience, and the vibrating underside makes it very easy to share the stimulation with a partner. It brings foreplay to the next level! "
- Del, AYLI Team Member
Great Gifts Under $100
Meet Starsi! Starsi comes from a starsun, a planet covered in fire, so Starsi loves the warmth of your body.
Starsi makes a great vibrator for all surfaces, from genitals to chests, between and beyond.
The curves on Starsi’s back make an ideal grip, easily palmed in your hand. Transfemme vibrator seekers with genital dysphoria tend to enjoy Starsi for Starsi’s ability to cover genitalia with a gently curved vulva-like feel, allowing us to map new genitalia and euphoria in our own mind.
You don’t have to be transfemme to discover Starsi’s pleasures though. Starsi is a sweet and sensual friend for all!$79.00 Add to cart
Niki is the most discreet and comfortable panty vibe on the market!
Sleek, sexy and silky smooth, this oh so cute vibe is slightly flexible, so it molds perfectly to your body. That’s right, it’s beautifully bendable and designed to fit your shape the way a panty vibe should…comfortably.
Powered by 10 vibration modes with 6 intensity levels, this panty vibe is always ready to tease and please your hot spot. Niki is completely submersible. USB rechargeable, cable included.$75.00 Select options
If you’re not a fan of real fur, we are so happy to introduce these adorable faux fur bunny tails!
Plush and perky, these tails are made from high quality faux fur, so you can go fur-free without sacrificing the quality.
Each fuzzy bunny tail comes magnetically attached to our classic Crystal Delights glass butt plug.
Fun, fluffy, and perfect for petting, our tails also make adorable role playing accessories. No matter what, they are sure to leave you bright eyed and bushy tailed!$90.00 Select options
We-Vibe Smart Wand
" Anyone who knows me knows that I love a good bath, so the fact that this wand is fully submergible is what makes it my pick. I love that the subtle, arched shape gives very gentle vibration on the handle, making this the ideal wand if you have any mobility or grip issues in your hands. I also really love the two amazing, body-safe attachments it comes with: one is
like a million little tongues moving all over your body,
and the other is perfectly sized to use as a stroker for a penis. It can be controlled by app, and it's so much fun to draw your own totally unique vibration patterns to play with. All this versatility is why this wand really is the best toy that couples can get themselves, regardless of their anatomy! "
- Kim, AYLI Owner & Founder
We hope that you like our selections! And if we forgot to include your top 2020 pick, drop a comment down below to let us know what awesome pleasure product we neglected to mention!
Most importantly, thank you to all of our customers, loyal supporters, and our community. We couldn't have made it through 2020 without your help, and we are so incredibly grateful for you all.
We at the As You Like It team want to wish you a safe and happy holiday season. Remember to take care of each other through the long winter. Better days are coming soon! And we will be there to celebrate them with you.
“When I first heard about suckler toys, I was skeptical. Would it really deliver? The top two brands are the Womanizer and the Satisfyer. I wasn’t sure I wanted to spend the money on one — I am not a clitoral only kind of woman. But an unexpected windfall gave me the opportunity to try out a Satisfyer. The idea behind this toy is that there is a moveable membrane at the back of a small, silicone-lipped opening on the device, This membrane vibrates back and forth creating a vacuum when the silicone “lips” seal around a small area of flesh – most often a nipple or a clitoris.
“The first attempt, I started cold turkey, no foreplay, just a little lube and the suckler itself. It proved to be a great tease, engorging my clit somewhat, arousing me and feeling very nice, but never quite sealing the deal completely. After a little while, I finished myself another way and reported the results to my sweetheart. But when he went off to work and I found myself home alone, I decided that a second try was in order. Holy Moly! This time that little sucker immediately latched onto my clitoris and I reached orgasm in just a few seconds! I barely had time to think, it was just happening! Since then, the Satisfyer has moved to the front of the drawer under my bed.”
-Reviewed by Melissa, AYLI Employee
The Often-Overlooked Wand
Back in the day, your option for a good vibrator was limited. To one side was a cheap, pointed plastic tube you’d pop a couple of D sized batteries into (which ALWAYS rattled loudly after a bit). It just screamed THIS IS A VIBRATOR Y’ALL. The plastic tube was the ultimate first vibrator for many of us. It went through batteries like I go through a bag of potato chips and was purely utilitarian. My fondest memories of my first vibrator mostly involved hiding it from parents and roommates.
Somewhere in the middle we had the “awkward animals” section of sex toys. They were soft, made of questionable material (jelly, anyone?), and inevitably were molded to look like something saccharinely cute. If you wanted a soft vibrator, this is what you got. These vibrators were noted for being oddly creepy and impossible to clean. If you were caught with one, you would inevitably have to first talk about how you weren’t sexually attracted to teddy bears in hats, but it was one step up from dolphin and cat, so you went with it.
In the corner was the wand. Huge, with a never-long-enough cord, and somewhat reminiscent of a large microphone they sat in their innocuous cardboard boxes in an unsexy display. If you fired one up, you found that it sounded like first gear of a Harley-Davidson. But it had something nothing else had. Those wands had the power. Some of us smiled as we felt the mind-numbing tingle at the tips of our fingers, knowing full well what this want could do. Too bad the wands had a maximum of two speeds (high, and higher), weird vinyl heads, could wake the dead, and a fit of passion could summarily unplug it.
We’ve come a long way, baby. If you wandered around the store today you’d find pulsators designed with NASA technology, a rechargeable battery the size of a thumb that will knock your socks off, and nary a teddy bear or suspicious jelly rubber device in sight. Smooth, sexy silicone and hand-held vibrators for whatever strikes your fancy. Yet, we still have a shelf devoted to the wand.
A new customer was browsing today, marveling at the new products. They got to the wand shelf and exclaimed, “Oh, old school!”. And suddenly I wanted to come to the defense of the wand, the true workhorse of vibrators. Here’s why the might wand is not only relevant, but essential to many people.
1) They have ‘oomph’: If you need strong sensation to have an orgasm, there’s nothing like a wand. Nothing. Most have a delightfully low rumble with no hints of obnoxious buzz. Pure delightful power.
2) The redesigns have fixed most of the worst issues: Come touch the fairly quiet, silky silicone, rechargeable wands we have in and tell me that’s what you were imagining. Then fire it up and remember the feeling…
3) Yeah, wands have something to grab onto that isn’t vibrating that much. If you’ve ever had “buzzy fingers” I don’t need to explain further.
4) It’s long: This is an upside. For solo use or with partners, for a variety of reasons sometimes it’s hard or impossible to keep a vibrator on that special place without a shoulder cramp or losing grip. For some people with mobility issues a wand is a great answer, especially now you can get some very light ones.
5) It doesn’t scream SEX TOY: Got snoops? Travelling? You can still make a case this is for your poor achy back muscles. After all, that’s still what the pictures on the box show. Or you could say “Yes, that is a sex toy. And you just touched it.”
6) And last but not least, are they still bulky?: Yep. Nature of the beast. Some are much slimmer but there you have it.
So, stop in, and remember the good things about the maligned wand-style vibrator and forget the bad.
Buy It Once Products That Last A Lifetime:
Introducing our As You Like It: Buy It Once Certification. These are toys that, with ordinary care and use, will last a lifetime. Toys that can safely last for your lifetime are beneficial to your sexuality, will save money over time, and promote a more eco-conscious way of shopping. No motorized toys will make the list, because after a certain period of use even the best made motorized toy can break. So, enjoy this (non-exhaustive) list of toys and companies we believe will serve you well as long as you want to use them.
Engage Your Lover Intimate Gift Guide, Part 1
“Wherever you are, and whatever you do, be in love.” Rumi
For those who celebrate gift-giving this time of year, you have an easy opportunity to deepen intimacy with a partner—or yourself, using sensual and erotic gifts as a springboard.
We really appreciate our customers and an overwhelming amount of you have had a plethora of questions about nipple clamps. We hope this quick guide alleviates any reservations you have about incorporating them into your playtime.
When my boss came back from a trade show with a bag full of swag and asked me to try out and review ON’s “arousal gel for women”, I was skeptical to say the least. Not only because most arousal products are bunk and/or full of nasty chemicals, but also because my junk is pretty sensitive. This is my ON Arousal Gel review: (more…)