In this groundbreaking book, therapist Resmaa Menakem examines the damage caused by racism in America from the perspective of trauma and body-centered psychology.
The body is where our instincts reside and where we fight, flee, or freeze, and it endures the trauma inflicted by the ills that plague society. Menakem argues this destruction will continue until Americans learn to heal the generational anguish of white supremacy, which is deeply embedded in all our bodies. Our collective agony doesn’t just affect African Americans. White Americans suffer their own secondary trauma as well. So do blue Americans—our police.
My Grandmother’s Hands is a call to action for all of us to recognize that racism is not only about the head, but about the body, and introduces an alternative view of what we can do to grow beyond our entrenched racialized divide. Paving the way for a new, body-centered understanding of white supremacy—how it is literally in our blood and our nervous system— this book offers a step-by-step healing process based on the latest neuroscience and somatic healing methods, in addition to incisive social commentary.
Women Share How Intimacy Changes as Life Changes
Women of the baby boomer generation know and trust Iris Krasnow as a writer who speaks candidly to the issues that concern them. Whether women are worried about marriage and divorce or illness and death, they’re all asking: “How do I handle the shifts in my sexuality caused by these events?” Sex After . . . holds the answers to everything from regaining sexual confidence after childbirth and breast cancer to navigating the dating scene in senior communities.
Filled with edgy and honest stories of carnal challenge and triumph from women of all backgrounds and life stages, Sex After . . . is Krasnow’s signature take on sex during all of life’s passages.
Krasnow is a media and lecture tour favorite, and readers—whether in the heat of an initial can’t-eat-can’t-sleep attraction or rounding the corner to their sixtieth anniversary—will applaud her eye-opening perspectives on the one issue that can change lives for better or worse like nothing else.
Girl Sex 101 is a book like none before it. This sex-ed book that provides useful information for ladies and lady-lovers of ALL genders and identities.
Each page has illustrations to better explain the content and showcases over 100 unique voices. This novel navigates the twists and turns of female sexuality, with guidance from thirteen sex educators, including Sex Nerd Sandrea, Tristan Taormino, Kelly Shibari, and more!$29.00 Add to cart
Are other people constantly intruding on your personal space, using your stuff, disrespecting you, and otherwise violating your boundaries? You can’t control what they do, but you can control how you understand and communicate your own needs and make choices about how you behave and respond to the people around you.
Dive deep into self-work with this interactive guide that can be used alone or as a companion to Dr. Faith’s book Unfuck Your Boundaries.
You’ll learn about how to give and get consent, how to make sure you’re stating your boundaries clearly and being understood, how to decide what is a dealbreaker, how to deal with boundaries in group settings, how to identify abuse, and how to hold yourself accountable to respecting the boundaries of others.
Helpful to anyone trying to figure out healthier intimate relationships, better workplace dynamics, difficult family drama, or just how to be more confident in your own skin.
A photographic essay that explores a wide spectrum of experiences told from the perspective of a diverse group of young people, ages 14–24, identifying as queer (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning), Speaking OUT: Queer Youth in Focus presents portraits without judgment or stereotype by eliminating environmental influence with a stark white backdrop.
This backdrop acts as a blank canvas, where each subject’s personal thoughts are handwritten onto the final photographic print. With more than 65 portraits photographed over a period of 10 years, the book provides rare insight into the passions, confusions, prejudices, joys, and sorrows felt by queer youth and gives a voice to an underserved group of people that are seldom heard and often silenced.
The collaboration of image and first-person narrative serves to provide an outlet, show support, create dialogue, and help those who struggle.
Activist-academic Meg John Barker and cartoonist Julia Scheele illuminate the histories of queer thought and LGBTQ+ action in this groundbreaking non-fiction graphic novel.
A kaleidoscope of characters from the diverse worlds of pop-culture, film, activism and academia guide us on a journey through the ideas, people and events that have shaped ‘queer theory’.
From identity politics and gender roles to privilege and exclusion, Queer explores how we came to view sex, gender and sexuality in the ways that we do; how these ideas get tangled up with our culture and our understanding of biology, psychology and sexology; and how these views have been disputed and challenged.
Along the way we look at key landmarks which shift our perspective of what’s ‘normal’, such as Alfred Kinsey’s view of sexuality as a spectrum between heterosexuality and homosexuality, Judith Butler’s view of gendered behavior as a performance, queerness in pop culture, and so much more!
In this vital, necessary, and beautiful book, antiracist educator Robin DiAngelo deftly illuminates the phenomenon of white fragility and allows us to understand racism as a practice not restricted to ‘bad people’.
Referring to the defensive moves that white people make when challenged racially, white fragility is characterized by emotions such as anger, fear, and guilt, and by behaviors including argumentation and silence. These behaviors, in turn, function to reinstate white racial equilibrium and prevent any meaningful cross-racial dialogue.
In this in-depth exploration, DiAngelo examines how white fragility develops, how it protects racial inequality, and what we can do to engage more constructively.
With a poet’s devotion to truth and an activist’s demand for justice, Eli Clare deftly unspools the multiple histories from which our ever-evolving sense of self unfolds. His essays weave together memoir, history, and political thinking to explore meanings and experiences of home: home as place, community, bodies, identity, and activism.
Here readers will find an intersectional framework for understanding how we actually live with the daily hydraulics of oppression, power, and resistance. At the root of Clare’s exploration of environmental destruction and capitalism, sexuality and institutional violence, gender and the body politic, is a call for social justice movements that are truly accessible to everyone.
With heart and hammer, Exile and Pride pries open a window onto a world where our whole selves, in all their complexity, can be realized, loved, and embraced.
No one learns “etiquette” anymore (except by embarrassing trial and error). But manners are more than a dusty tradition: Done right, they make life easier—for everyone!
That’s why Sandi Toksvig highlights decency rather than convention in this entertaining guide! She will offer spot on advice, like “Remember—you don’t have to answer the phone, so don’t do it if you don’t have time to be polite.” Also learn fascinating trivia, like “It is very rude to clear the plate of someone who hasn’t finished. In fact, the Romans believed doing so would bring about the diner’s sudden death.”
With the author’s trademark wit, you’ll be the most decently behaved person in the room, and the most interesting, once you’ve mastered The Tricky Art of Co-Existing!
Japanese-style rope bondage and erotic macramé may look complicated and intimidating, but you can learn the basics of this beautiful, sexy art form today!
Bondage artist and educator Lee Harrington takes you step by step through a variety of concepts and ties, giving you the tools to make aesthetically rewarding ropework.
Each tutorial is broken down into easy-to-follow photographs with detailed descriptions of each step, including how to tie all those knots. From restrictive poses that limit movement to decorative rope that accentuates the human form, Shibari You Can Use includes instruction on creating Shinju (chest harnesses), Gyaku Ebi (Asian-style hogtie), Ebi or Kuri (shrimp or ball ties), rope corsets, strap-on harnesses and crotch ropes, and much more.
Check out the second book in this series, More Shibari You Can Use.
Anal sex doesn’t have to be scary or painful–you deserve to know how to make it safer, more comfortable, and more pleasurable. No butts about it… this is only book you need for your journey to anal pleasure.
So try something new with your lover. Anal Sex Basics covers everything a beginner to butt play will need, from choosing your lube to learning the best positions. But more than just technique, this guide also helps you to bring up anal sex with your partner and make your adventures as fun and safe as possible.
Sex educator Carlyle Jansen has all of the tips and techniques to ease you into butt play and anal pleasure. Learn all of the sexiest secrets to fingering, licking, and using toys. Discover the pleasure of G-spot and P-spot play. Even try some erotic fantasy and role play!
The #NSFW Totally Naughty Coloring Book features incredibly sexy imagery from artist Alex Kotkin, along with the sensual aesthetic of erotic taste-maker Elle Chase
Inside this sultry and tantalizing coloring book, you’ll find a diverse array of scenes, engaging the user in fantasy-worthy acts of carnal delight. Feel your excitement grow as you color within the lines (or don’t).
Finish off with some quiet time admiring your hard work… maybe even share it with a “friend”.$14.00 Add to cart
Color My boobs offers color-in drawings featuring an amazing variety of boobs for every taste. Showcasing the work of two talented artists, these line drawings also feature character boobs: a showgirl, pirate, cheerleader, goddess, hot teacher and much more!
The perfect party favor for Bachelorette and Bachelor parties, these books also make hilarious gag gifts, and stimulate romantic evenings.
Surprisingly sensual, this coloring book offers hours of intimate fun!
Thanks to this first-ever interactive intercourse guide, you and your lover can explore exciting new sex positions in an enjoyable, approachable and brightly colored way. Don’t worry about staying inside the lines as you learn to be creative between the sheets.
Perfect as a bachelorette, wedding shower or birthday gift, Sex Position Coloring Book is as hilariously playful as it is anatomically accurate.
With 101 ready-to-color outlines of couples in real sex positions, this is the silliest yet most informative sex book a man and a woman and a box of crayons have ever shared.
Almost a decade ago, the first Bottoming Book taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming – being a submissive, masochist, slave, “boy” or “girl”, or other BDSM recipient – is as much an art as topping.
Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players. Now, the completely updated revised New Bottoming Book gives even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular bottom!
New sections on dominance/submission play, bridging the gap from on-line to real-time relationships, the four stages of a scene, and more.
by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Two decades ago, this book began teaching tens of thousands of people the joyous arts of BDSM topping and bottoming – not just “how-to,” but “why-to”… the insider details of emotional support and ethical interaction during kinky play.
Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players.
Now, the completely updated revised New Topping Book gives even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular player!
In this book, famed bondage riggers the Two Knotty Boys show readers how to tie basic knots and use them in sensual bondage techniques.
With the help of renowned photographer Ken Marcus, the Boys use more than 750 full-color photos to illustrate the techniques for turning rope into rope bondage. Easy-to-follow captions and clear, step-by-step images allow readers to learn at their own pace, review entire techniques at a glance, or lay the book flat on a bed or table and follow along as they subdue their partner.
Written in a playful style that makes rope bondage safe and approachable, and covering a wide range of techniques from basic ties to decorative ropework pieces, Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes is the perfect bedside companion for curious newcomers and serious players alike.$22.00 Add to cart
Does the swagger of a sure-footed butch make you swoon? Do your knees go weak when you see a femme straighten her stockings? A duet between two sorts of women, butch/femme is a potent sexual dynamic.
Tristan Taormino chose her favorite butch/femme stories from the Best Lesbian Erotica series, which has sold over 200,000 copies in the 16 years she was editor. And if you think you know what goes in in the bedroom between femmes and butches, these 22 shorts will delight you with erotic surprises.
In Joy Parks’s delicious “Sweet Thing,” the new femme librarian in town shows a butch baker a new trick in bed. The stud in “Tag!,” by D. Alexandria, finds her baby girl after a chase in the woods by scent alone. And the girl in a pleated skirt gets exactly what she wants from her Daddy in Peggy Munson’s “The Rock Wall.”
Sometimes She Lets Me shows that it’s all about attitude — predicting who will wind up on top isn’t easy in stories by S. Bear Bergman, Rosalind Christine Lloyd, Samiya A. Bashir, and many more.
Lesbian vampires — the quintessential bad girls — indulge in their perverse pleasures in this red-hot collection.
The female vampire is so deliciously wicked that her powerful sexual nature was hidden for centuries. But the vampire story has always been one of submerged eroticism. The vampire emerges from the shadows, seduces her intended victim, and feeds on her, defying all rules in her pursuit of pleasure.
In Daughters of Darkness, editor Pam Keesey brings the eroticism of the female vampire front and center with explicit tales from some of the finest contemporary queer writers.
Patrick Califia’s “The Vampire” confounds conventional views of the subject as he uncovers Sapphic bloodlust in the S/M netherworld. Katherine V. Forrest imagines the lesbian vampire cruising the galaxies in search of bed-and-blood partners in the witty sci-fi adventure “O Captain, My Captain.” In “Louisiana: 1850,” Lambda Award-winner Jewelle Gomez delights readers with a curious ménage in the antebellum South.
Also included is the first major lesbian vampire tale, J. Sheridan Le Fanu’s “Carmilla” (1871).$15.00 Read more
With intelligence, humor, and wonder, Ryan and Jethá show how our promiscuous past haunts our struggles over monogamy, sexual orientation, and family dynamics.
They explore why long-term fidelity can be so difficult for so many; why sexual passion tends to fade even as love deepens; why many middle-aged men risk everything for transient affairs with younger women; why homosexuality persists in the face of standard evolutionary logic; and what the human body reveals about the prehistoric origins of modern sexuality.
In the tradition of the best historical and scientific writing, Sex at Dawn unapologetically upends unwarranted assumptions and unfounded conclusions while offering a revolutionary understanding of why we live and love as we do.$17.00 Add to cart
A New York City therapist examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships.
Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.
Dr. Faith explains the fundamentals of adulting in this handy guide. Spoiler: None of the requirements are about having certain jobs, kids, possessions and debts, or being totally bored and stressed out and hating your life.
This book will not teach you to change your oil or fold fitted sheets. Instead, Dr. Faith offers wisdom from her life experience and counseling practice like, “If it’s not yours, don’t touch it,” “Love people but not their bullshit,” “Invest in small comforts,” and “Either win or learn.”
It’s hard work to do adulty stuff well, but the kind of work that’s satisfying because it’s about being good to yourself and other people and building a life that you’re okay with waking up to every day. Keep these hot tips around for when you’re making big decisions, dealing with difficult situations, or to give to a friend or kid who’s making any kind of big life transition.
The truth is, adulting is way more fun than kidding. You got this!
Violating consent isn’t limited to sexual relationships, and our discussions around consent shouldn’t be, either.
To resist rape culture, we need a consent culture—and one that is more than just reactionary. Left confined to intimate spaces, consent will atrophy as theory that is never put into practice. The multi-layered power disparities of today’s world require a response sensitive to a wide range of lived experiences.
In Ask, Kitty Stryker assembles a retinue of writers, journalists, and activists to examine how a cultural politic centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it’s at the doctor’s office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities.
More than a collection of essays, Ask is a testimony and guide on the role that negated consent plays in our lives, examining how we can take those first steps to reclaim it from institutionalized power.
This unique anthology combines comics with scholarship for a stunning and heart-felt inquiry into the current state of queer men’s physical, mental, emotional and sexual health.
With over 30 contributing artists, comics explore subjects like online dating, fat-shaming, gender dysphoria, top surgery, good consent, and overcoming adversity with the help of a friend or partner. ‘Rainbow Reflections’ is, at its core, a book of self-love and self-care.
Thirty-eight short comics reflect on body image from the perspectives of queer men, exploring our understandings of masculinity, attraction and self-worth. Interspersed throughout the book are fact sheets with the latest findings in queer men’s health research, providing readers with a mix of scholarly literature and heartfelt depictions of personal experience.$20.00 Add to cart
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