The Polyamory Breakup Book

Fumbling Toward Repair is a workbook by Mariame Kaba and Shira Hassan that includes reflection questions, skill assessments, facilitation tips, helpful definitions, activities, and hard-learned lessons intended to support people who have taken on the coordination and facilitation of formal community accountability processes to address interpersonal harm & violence.

Not for beginners! This workbook is intended for people with experience in community accountability work, whether as formal or informal facilitators, mediators, and survivors’ support people. It’s the book the creators wish they’d had when they were first starting out.

The exercises focus on self-accountability, assessing and growing your own skills, deciding whether or not to get involved, troubleshooting common problems, and improving your grasp of the technical nuts and bolts of accountability. Includes exercises to do on your own, with survivors, with perpetrators, and with your team.

Packed full of stories, perspectives from many people and situations, example documents, and more. This resource is deeply thoughtful, practical, and full of heart for the people who find their calling is to try to help mend the most broken relationships.