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Violating consent isn’t limited to sexual relationships, and our discussions around consent shouldn’t be, either.
To resist rape culture, we need a consent culture—and one that is more than just reactionary. Left confined to intimate spaces, consent will atrophy as theory that is never put into practice. The multi-layered power disparities of today’s world require a response sensitive to a wide range of lived experiences.
In Ask, Kitty Stryker assembles a retinue of writers, journalists, and activists to examine how a cultural politic centered on consent can empower us outside the bedroom, whether it’s at the doctor’s office, interacting with law enforcement, or calling out financial abuse within radical communities.
More than a collection of essays, Ask is a testimony and guide on the role that negated consent plays in our lives, examining how we can take those first steps to reclaim it from institutionalized power.
224 Pages
Kitty Stryker is a writer, activist, and authority on developing a consent culture in alternative communities. She is the founder of www.ConsentCulture.com. This domain is a hub for LGBT, kinky, and polyamorous folks looking for a sexcritical approach to relationships. Kitty also cofounded the artsy sexy party Kinky Salon London, as well as creating the award-winning Ladies High Tea & Pornography Society. She also created the San Francisco–based kink party Whippersnappers, and acted as head of cosplay for queer gaming convention GaymerX. Kitty tours internationally, speaking at universities and conferences about feminism, sex work, body positivity, queer politics, and more. She lives in Oakland, California, with her wife, boyfriend, and two cats, Foucault and Nietzsche.
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Jackie –
This book absolutely blew my mind! I usually think of Consent as a sexual act, but this book encouraged me to rethink my understanding of consent and apply it to all aspects of life. I loved that it was full of diverse voices with diverse experiences, and was extremely thought-provoking throughout. The fact that it’s broken up into sections, and then short personal essays within each section, makes it easy to read, even as it introduces complex concepts. Absolutely widened my understanding of consent, and opened my eyes to new ways to support and respect the autonomy of the others I interact with, whether in my relationships or simply in my day-to-day life.