Engage Your Lover with an Intimate Gift, Part 2
“Happiness is what sex is all about. Sex toys enhance one of the most playful and liberating parts of adult lives. For many women, a good vibrator can mean the difference between having orgasms and just wondering about them.” Sex Toys 101: A Playfully Uninhibited Guide,” Rachel Venning & Claire Cavanah.
Now that you have your sensual and erotic books picked out (for yourself or your lover of course), you will want some holiday gift ideas and As You Like It; A Pleasure Shop is stocked and ready to meet your needs. The following is a list of ideas for you or your beloved (or both!) that will inspire connection and risk-taking tailored to your comfort level. Plan to experience some juicy connectivity. You can also come by the store and our friendly and knowledgeable staff can help you assemble a gift package tailored to all your needs!
I know what you’re thinking: “Oh, my god, what would: [fill in the blank: Grandma, the kids, Aunt Bessie, etc.] think when my lover pulls a dildo out of her stocking….??”] Ummm. If you have those concerns, give your erotic gifts privately!
Vibrators, dildos and butt plugs, oh, my!
Vibrators from We-Vibe, JeJoue and JimmyJane (and others!) will give women and couples hours of delicious pleasure. Heart-shaped, discrete lipstick styles, hands-free models—so many options to consider. Dildos that vibrate, thrust, or fit into a harness can spark the love life of singles and couples! Come in and see what entices you from Fun Factory, Tantus, Pleasure Works and more. If you’d like to do your looking in advance to familiarize yourself with our products, visit our website.
Guybrators, masturbation sleeves oh my:
Guybrators, masturbation sleeves and cock rings will delight the man in your life. The Hot Octopus Pulse II delivers unparalleled stimulation through its unique oscillation pattern while Fleshlight and FiFi allow the solo man to experience pleasure with new sensation. For the gender-transitioning man, the Buck-Off is a masturbation aid that delivers satisfaction through a stroker sleeve that allows the user to achieve orgasm without touching his genitals. A cock ring is a ring that fits around the base of a penis or the scrotum and slows the flow of blood from the erect penis, which allows an erection to last longer. It is not recommended that cock rings be used longer than 20-30 minutes. Great for men with erectile issues or any man that wants his erection to last longer.
Gift sets make giving easy and can kick up the heat! Tango Pleasure Mate Collection by We-Vibe delivers Tango’s deep vibration in a small package with two attachments for extended exploration: “Glow” reaches the G-Spot with its soft tip and firm handle and “Dusk” is perfect for first-time anal play. Ooh, Her Name is Rio, by Je Joue includes a large motor with two attachments: the vibrating pebble or the classic vibrator. In addition, the AYLI staff has assembled a variety of beginner kits: sensual massage 101, basic kink, introduction to harness play, vibration basics and more. All AYLI kits include our own body butter and/or massage oil. Look for edible treats as well. Gift sets are a great way to open to sensual exploration with your partner!
Don’t forget a fantastic lube! Lubes make great stocking stuffers. At As You Like It; A Pleasure Shop, we carry only body-safe lubes, including Aloe Cadabra, Sliquid and locally produced Good Clean Love. Using good quality lube is so important—especially for post-menopausal women and anal sex afficionados. As we age, vaginal tissues become more fragile and prone to micro-tearing. Certain lubes can actually make this worse, so we encourage our customers to use only body safe lubes. For anal sex, lube is vital because the anus does not produce its own lubrication.
Whatever your situation, gift-giving presents opportunity: you can give your usual and expected gifts, or you can try something new as a way to explore and deepen connectivity. If you feel certain that such a gift would be a shock to your partner, consider including a heart-felt note with your gift, inviting your partner into a vulnerable sharing about your desire to deepen intimacy. It may be the best gift you ever give—to both of you.