by Javay da BAE, The Millennial Sexpert
April showers bring May flowers, but what about bedroom showers?! If you have been wanting to make things a little wet and wild in the bedroom but have been unsuccessful on your own, don’t fret! That’s what we’re here for, so here is a breakdown on squirting for those who have been considering bringing waterfalls (or water spurts) into their playtime!
What Even is Squirt?
Depending on the side of the internet you are on, you may or may not have seen the common debates on whether squirt is pee or not. Short answer, it’s not. The long answer is that squirt is a mix fluid that has some amounts of urine (because it does exit through the urethra), as well as other fluids produced by the body. If you want to make sure that your squirt is not full of urine, it is recommended to completely empty your bladder before sexual activity.
Understanding Anatomy
Before we dive into the squirting technique, we need to understand how it happens, so let’s have a little anatomy lesson.
This is the external view of the vulva (the vagina is a part, not the whole thing). Depending on your body (or your partner’s body), stimulating different parts of the vulva in various ways can lead to squirting. The external areas that are generally stimulated are going to be the clitoris and the vagina. If you are trying internal stimulation, you are more than likely familiar with the G-spot, and that is sorta kinda correct.
The G-spot is a highly sensitive, textured area on the roof of the vaginal canal. Many people believe that stimulating this area is all that is being done. Still, it is actually a part of an entire system of sensation, the clitourethrovaginal (CUV) complex, a group of interconnected anatomical structures in the female genital tract that play a key role in sexual pleasure (Jannini, Buisson, & Rubio-Casillas). This essentially means that stimulating the G-spot is stimulating both the vaginal canal and the urethra, which both sit within the bulbs of the clitoris, so you are simulataneously providing sensation to all those areas. This trifecta of stimulation is what leads to squirting for so many people. So, how exactly do they do it?
It’s All About Technique
When it comes to the technique of squirting, for many the tried and true come-hither motion inside the vagina is the money. There is a big fat asterisk with that statement, though. It generally works for a decent amount of the population, but everyone and every body is different. This needs to be taken into consideration. The come-hither motion is a great starting point if it is your first time trying to squirt. We highly recommend trying this motion on yourself to see how it feels before having a partner do it. It is crucial to ensure that you are using lube when trying this (and for all sex in general). Lube will help ensure that friction is minimized and that the sensation is pleasurable, and make it so that your fingers can glide and move with ease.
Now, some folks don’t squirt from internal stimulation but rather from external stimulation. There are two different types of external stimulation that you can try: clitoral stimulation and urethral stimulation. Direct stimulation of the clitoris, be it with fingers or a toy, can help people achieve the desired water show. Urethral stimulation is generally just external stimulation on or around the urethral opening. Urethral stimulation is not the most common way for people to squirt, but since it is where the squirt exits the body, it has a great chance of working.
If you are not seeing results after about 10-15 minutes of one type of stimulation, it might be a good idea to try another method or mix a few different methods at the same time. An important thing to know about squirting is that you are going to have the sensation of feeling like you have to pee. This is where most people get tripped up in the endeavor to squirt–they pull back or restrain themselves when the sensation hits. As long as you peed before sexual activity started, you don’t have to worry, so you want to actually let the sensation happen, this is how squirting actually happens. Remember, squirt exits through the urethra, so of course it is going to feel like you have to pee.
If You Need a Little More Help
Don’t stress if manual internal or external stimulation is not yielding waterfall results–that’s what sex toys are here for! One of the most popular toys that has yielded some wet and wild results is the njoy Pure Wand. This stainless steel dual-ended wand works wonders for internal stimulation, and many people successfully squirt with it. The balls on either end of the wand are different sizes, so you can choose a size that is most comfortable for you. The steel's weight helps apply pressure to the G-spot to stimulate the CUV complex, which helps people get there in terms of squirting. The wand has the added feature of being able to be used for temperature play, which adds an additional sensation.
If internal stimulation with a toy doesn’t work for you and you want assistance with external stimulation, suction (or air pleasure) toys are going to be a great option. Suction toys provide a unique sensation that has been shown to lead to squirting for some people. If you have never tried a suction toy before, we highly recommend starting with a Womanizer Liberty or a Svakom Pulse Lite Neo. Either of those toys is great for beginners as they have a lower starting setting, so you are not overwhelmed, and the experience is more pleasurable. If you know that you enjoy a little more power, then you could try the Womanizer Premium 2 or the Womanizer Next.
Things to Remember
Despite the common messaging in porn, not everyone will squirt. This is for a variety of reasons, but it is important to be gentle with yourself and your partner if you don’t squirt. It is also important to remember that not everyone is going to squirt like a geyser bursting in a national park or have a stream that’s comparable to a water hose. Sometimes a squirt is a trickle that runs down and creates a puddle on the sheets or is just a little extra liquid, and that’s okay! And if you want to make clean-up easier, consider putting down a Liberator Fascinator Throw.
Squirting also will only happen if you are well hydrated. Your body can’t create fluids from nothing, so if you aren’t regularly drinking enough water, you are less likely to squirt. This is true even though you should empty your bladder before sexual activity if you want to squirt rather than pee on your partner.
We hope that this helps you venture into wetter pastures or at least taught you a little something more about squirting!