Learn How to Find the Right Toy for You
by Josie
When you’re looking to buy your first dildo, you may not realize just how many options you have. There’s a dizzying array of shapes, sizes, materials and textures. Do you want something representational or abstract? Do you want something soft or rigid? Do you want something textured or smooth? Will it be used in a harness? Should it be made of steel, or glass, or silicone or wood?
We are here to help you navigate this potentially overwhelming world and guide you to the perfect match.
How are you Using it?
How you plan to use your toy changes what shape and style will work best. If you are using a dildo in a harness, it will need some kind of flanged based to hold it in place. This goes for all styles of strap-on harnesses! We have a wide selection of harness compatible dildos to choose from for just that, plus a variety of strap-on harness styles too!
When it comes to harness play, a little extra length can really make a difference during use. Since the toy is strapped to the body, it can be hard to use the full length of the toy. That means that although a toy offers 6″ of insertable length, the receiver may only get 4″. It’s equally important to consider who is on the receiving end. Anal play benefits from a toy with a curve, especially if your goal is prostate stimulation! A curved shape is also helpful for vaginal penetration; the g-spot is easier to hit with a curve, and loves firm pressure.
Shape, Girth, and Length
When you are using a dildo by hand you you don’t necessarily need a flanged base unless you’re using it anally, in which case it must, must, MUST have a flanged base. While vaginas have an end point, the rectum does not: remember, without a base = without a trace. That’s why we have a selection of anal-safe dildos!
Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, it’s time to consider shapes. Different shapes stimulate difference nerves and feel different Do you want your toy to to feel like a penis? Well then, you’ll want something more realistic feeling. Should it stimulate the G-spot or prostate? Curved toy time! Are you using it on yourself ? If so consider ease of use. Hand cramps can kill a good time! Something with a handle can really help you out!
Here’s the easy trick for selecting a dildo with the right girth for you: consider how many fingers the orifice you intend to use it in comfortably accommodates. Hold that number of fingers up to the largest insertable part (not the base) of any dildo and there you go! Some companies even measure their toys using the average finger size for reference.
When considering length here’s something to bear in mind: If your dildo is too long you can always hold back, but if it’s too short there’s not much you can do. Ideally your toy will be the perfect fit but, but if you aren’t sure, err on the side of too long.
Materials
Be picky about your toy materials. We always are! For softer, realistic-feeling dildos, you can’t go wrong with silicone. It’s smooth, a little squishy and can take some serious action. It’s also nonporous so you can clean it super easily. There are some amazing options in steel or glass. Again, these materials are non-porous, so keeping them clean is a breeze and the shape options are pretty awesome.
Happy Shopping!