Solo play is a great time to give some intentional attention to your self-pleasure routine. If this month has shown you that things are a little stagnant, that’s okay—you aren’t alone. It is very common for us to fall into a routine with ourselves that doesn’t hit as hard as we want to. Since it is a common experience, we figured we would share some ways to spice up your solo play to revitalize that spark all by yourself. Here are three things you can do to turn things up for the rest of Solo Play May!
Engage Your Senses
When you get into a routine with solo play, your body begins to expect it, and this can make it so that things are as strong or powerful as they were when you first started. A great way to get the zing back is by engaging your senses more intentionally. You can use different items to help you focus your attention on specific sensations for more embodied pleasure. You can use a blindfold to minimize visual distractions and pay attention to how the sensations feel on and in your body. If you are easily distracted by sounds, turning on music to drown out the outside world can help you be more present in your body as well. You can use massage candles to more easily pay attention to the sense of touch and have more awareness of how things feel on your body. When you pay more attention to your senses, you can experience sensations more wholly and have more pleasure.
Explore New Sensations
Another great way to get back the oomph of self-pleasure is by exploring new sensations. If your current solo play routine is always the same sensation, you and your body may be craving something new. You can explore new sensations with sex toys. If you tend to go for vibration, you can explore Air Pleasure technology, more commonly known as suction, with toys like the Womanizer Premium 2, Svakom Pulse Lite Neo, or the Arcwave Ion Stroker. You could also explore sensations like twirling with the b-Vibe Rimming Plug. If you tend to opt for a toy with a motor for self-pleasuring, you could also try manual stimulation and explore sensations like tapping or massaging with your own hands. You can also explore new sensations with topicals and lubes. ON Arousal Oil provides a pleasant buzzy sensation and can be used on nipples and externally on genitals. Aloe Cadabra’s peppermint-flavored lube is another great option for a tingling sensation.
Record Yourself
Another option for making solo play a little spicier is recording yourself. This also serves a second purpose of having your own erotica to use for arousal or just sending to a partner when you want to get them excited. Recording yourself doesn’t have to be a big deal; you can just prop your phone up at an angle that has a view you like and just enjoy yourself as you usually would. Recording yourself adds a level of eroticism to solo play because it can feel naughtier for a lot of people. If you do want to make the video a little nicer but are unsure where to get started consider joining the Anyone Can Be A P*rnstar: Living Your XXX Fantasy workshop hapenning on May 18, 2025.
Regardless of whether you want to spice up your solo play or not, be sure to take some time this month to spoil yourself with pleasure because you deserve it!