by Javay da BAE, The Millennial Sexpert
Wanting to have sexual adventures in new areas? Have you considered the shower? When it comes to shower sex, the reviews are mixed — some people love it and others think it is a bust. If you want to explore shower sex for yourself, there are some things that you can do to make it a pleasurable experience. Here are three things to prepare or have on hand to ensure that your review of shower sex is more positive and makes you more inclined to do it again.
Water Isn’t Lube
The reason so many people have negative experiences with shower sex is that they assume, since there is water, they don’t need lube. LIES! Liza Minelli! Water alone is not going to provide the slickness that allows for minimized friction and pleasurable sexual activity, so you will need to have lube. We recommend using a water-based lube because it can be reactivated with water, meaning that you won’t need to continuously reapply lube, but let the water of the shower do the work for you. We recommend a water-based lube such as Sliquid H20, Sliquid Sassy, or Sliquid Tsunami. Sassy and Tsunami are thicker lubes provisioning more cushion if you are trying to engage in anal sex in the shower.
Positions & Support Matter
At first glance, the shower seems to provide limited options in terms of positions, but that isn’t necessarily the case. Obviously, the size and shape of your shower are going to impact the positions you can do comfortably and safely, but there is still variety. Most commonly, standing positions are going to be the most common for folks to try, but the important piece is support. When you combine water with the aerobics of sex, the slipperiness presents a dangerous mix; that’s why you have to have support. If your shower has handles or structures where you can rest your feet, use them. You can also provide more support by putting a no-slip bath mat in your shower to give you a better grip. If you don’t have ideas for positions, you should check out these 12 different shower sex positions.
Some Like It Hot
Now, depending on you and your partner(s), the water temperature may be the most significant area of strife around shower sex. If one person loves scalding hot showers and the other likes it cooler, you can end up in a tough spot for both of y’all to enjoy the experience. Meeting in the middle in terms of temperature could work for some folks, but if that is not you and your partner(s), it could be a good idea to have the person who loves it hot get in first and start at the temperature they like and then slowly lower the temperature at a rate that they are comfortable so that it gets to a bearable temperature for the other person. You could also opt to just take a cold shower for your sexy time.
Shower sex might seem like a hurdle at face value, but there are ways to enjoy it with ease. Give these tips a try and see if shower sex is for you.