Description
The time has come to tell your friends and family about your preference for nonmonogamy. You’re on the cusp of self-liberation—so why does it feel so daunting, or even scary, like you’re about to confess to some sinister transgression? This is normal. You are not alone. Even in progressive families and communities, people who practice nonmonogamy are susceptible to misinformation and accusations of moral and emotional failings. Facing this requires its own coming out and education process.
Let this book be your roadmap for explaining the expansive intricacies of the consensual nonmonogamy spectrum. Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles fuse personal experience and community research to break down the various incarnations of polyamorous relationship structures, the intersections of polyamory with race and gender, and the seemingly esoteric jargon of the lifestyle. If you absolutely have to explain what a “unicorn hunter” is to your auntie, Tamara has you covered.
“Can poly people raise children? Can they live normal, healthy lives?” Such questions, grounded in myths typical of those faced by sexual minorities, are eloquently answered, and the real dangers of being out as poly in a monogamy-centered society are frankly laid bare.
No matter the conversation you’re going in, It’s Called Polyamory helps you come out confident.
"By bringing in perspectives of a variety of nonmonogamous people, It’s Called Polyamory by Tamra Pincus and Rebecca Hiles becomes both relatable and eye-opening. This book is a guidebook to opening up to friends, family and strangers about nonmonogamy that is sincere and compassionate but also no-nonsense and direct. It will give you tools to prepare to be more patient and educated but also offers practice to develop good boundaries for yourself while you open up.
Something that I appreciate about this book is that it takes the time to point out how different cultures, races and religions will impact a person’s desire to, or experiences when, coming out. Stories are shared from polyamorous people with different experiences, who self-identify with culture, race, gender and more. The authors clearly tried to bring in a variety of voices for the stories. Although the end result does skew to white voices of a variety of sexual orientations, ages and genders; there is diversity of religion, culture and race.
It’s Called Polyamory does not pressure anybody to come out but does encourage living authentically and illustrates both the risks and rewards of the decision. It also gives a brief history of nonmonogamy in the United States and explores the depth of experiences and labels within a large community. I would recommend this book to anybody considering nonmonogamy, new to nonmonogamy or at a transitional stage of coming out. I think people will find this book humorous and uplifting." - Anonymous reviewer.
Softcover. 166 Pages.
About The Authors
Tamara Pincus is a licensed clinical social worker and AASECT-certified sex therapist who runs a private practice in the Washington, DC, area. She specializes in working with kinky, polyamorous and LGBTQ clients and has been active in alternative sexuality communities since 1998.
Rebecca Szymborski is a dating, relationships and sexual wellness coach. She has contributed to Sexpert.com and xoJane, and has had her writing featured on Everyday Feminism. She was voted one of the Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2014 and 2015.